Valentine’s Day

With Red heart Valenintine’s day Red heart only just over two weeks ahead I don’t hold out much hope of bunches of velvet red roses Red roseRed rosearriving at my door, nor an embarrassing number of dinner invitations to turn down. Broken heart No doubt it will be ‘as per usual’, an evening spend at home, just the three of us – me, myself and I. Crying

Ah romance… To be carried off in the night by your magic lover. A snowflake’s chance in hell

Night and Sleep   Evelyn De Morgan


‘Tis better to have loved and lost … Bah Humbug


Alfred Tennyson wroteHearts Floating By:

I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.



One Word:

  BULLSHIT    OvrW_001_099



I have loved and lost,
I have been loved and loved not,
I have loved, but unrequited,
I have wanted love when none could be found.
So I know that love ‘does’ hurt, almost physical pain,
Losing a precious love can be like grieving a death,
Being unable to return love to someone you care or respect creates guilt.
Enduring unrequited love is just a constant heartache.

Therefore if you haven’t yet given your heart, think carefully;
Take some advice from someone older and ‘sadly’ wiser;





Or be aware the consequences.





Why love if losing hurts so much?

We love to know that we are not alone.


CS LewisHearts Floating ByHearts Floating BySylvester

Hearts Floating By Hearts Floating By

True Happiness


‘I believe all suffering is caused by ignorance. People inflict pain on others in the selfish pursuit of their happiness or satisfaction. Yet true happiness comes from a sense of inner peace and contentment, which in turn must be achieved through the cultivation of altruism, of love and compassion and elimination of ignorance, selfishness and greed.’


Dahli Lama

Love and Death


catch me

Love is something I give freely to my wonderful friends. My love for a life partner to have as a best friend and lover, someone to grow old (older!) with, someone to have such fun with is currently in a suitcase in my wardrobe – love lonely in the dark, but growing all the same until I (hopefully) find someone who finds me funny, quirky and intelligent and wants to be with me…  Just hurry up, I’m already 50!

‘Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.’

Kahil Gibran


Losing someone you love fills you with grief – fear, aloneness, anger, physical pain. I have lost loved ones – but today I write about a friend who has lost someone dearly loved. I want to hold them and somehow take away the pain and sorrow, but the soul must grieve in order to heal.

When grief becomes a hollow but still painful ache in our hearts we can bring that loved one to life through shared memories.  Some years ago I lost the best friend I could ever hope to have and although it took me a few years to be able to, I can now say ‘Shaun would have loved that… or Shaun would have said’, not obsessively but now and then to people who also new him.  Doing this brings joy to my heart and helps me to remember how funny and special he was.

I hope my friend can reach this point some time in the future.

Again I find Kahil Gibran describes human emotion so poignantly and poetically:

‘When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.’
‘Oh, heart, I the ignorant say to you that the soul perishes like the body, answer that the flower perishes, but the seeds remain.’
Red Rose

Kahil Gibran        

Pre-Raphaelite Art – John Willam Waterhouse. A few of my favourites

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